We should know who we are !
I was watching one of my recent favorite influencer speak about how he have overheard his father’s conversation with his mother , sharing worries that what if their son is stupid. Later on in life, he waited until he is 27 to feel that he is useful enough to his family when his dad got stroke and they had to take him to hospital, the influencers driving skills apparently helped. He felt proud at that moment, because he felt there was a use for him after all. We often feel like we are not enough mostly that confidence issue might come from childhood with the people around us pointing out on what they think is our flaws. That is the reason why we want to find our value/ worth instead of just existing and being happy. We need a reason to feel good about ourself , we need a purpose to live. People who are around 25 years of age or more might have this nagging question in their mind “What is the purpose of my life?” I loved the way how this influencer narrated the incident , and it resonates with many of us.
Life is not about finding your worth, its realising you have been worthy all along and you are indeed worthy! You dont need situations that prove your value or people that appreciate your value as much as you need your validation. You need to know yourself, if you don’t you will not be able to appreciate yourself. Its simple but I don’t know why we are seeing it like a complicated math problem! Maybe because society have conditioned us that way, our own community and household has conditioned us that way to live- “Make everyone proud” one dialogue that has a huge weightage on us even if its about scoring good, or earning a job or about having a kid , it can be anything but we are conditioned to make others proud , but why not “US”? thats the bigger question. The question you should ask yourself is “Am I proud of myself?” / “Am I doing all this for myself?” we have quotes that say “Don’t do it for others, do it for yourself”, so are you doing all this that you are doing currently for yourself? can you answer that question with a “partial yes “ atleast? Someone telling you that you are good enough is a temporary thing, appreciations / enouragement don’t often come to us, its a once in a bluemoon kind of a situation right? You feeling good about yourself irrespective of anything is the best form of selflove. You are worthy and you don’t need to be a certain way to be worthy!
Don’t seek external validations cause , it is going to make you feel insignificant all the time! And you are most definitely not an insignificant person! Know yourself more, to know your worth.
