The Confidence Journey --013 Finding solutions to your problems on your own
“ A problem is a chance for you to do your best.”
--Duke Ellington
Most of the time when we are hit with an issue we panic. Some of us are real princesses waiting to be saved by some prince charming, atleast at some point in our lives. We all have a co-dependency with the people we associate with on personal and professional front and that is the way we function. But when the dependency reaches a level where all our problems should be solved by someone, then we are in trouble. It is because we have less confidence in ourselves. How will we handle the issue? is one major question we think about, but the main question is Who should solve the problems that are thrown at me? , it is I and nobody else. But yes, we might need some help but no we do not need someone to come and solve it for us.
The main quote to be chanted and rechanted again, when you feel less confident in yourself is to say "Its you at the end of the day" no one else will be there to share blame, pain or traumas until you are confident about one thing, that is you are going to be who you are and live your life in the best way you can. Same goes for your career, you can only make corrections/ improvements from your part to the best of your abilities rather than always feeling low about what you cannot do. As foolish as comparing yourself with a much experienced supervisor or CEO of your company, it is equally foolish to compare yourself with your peers because all people are unique. We have our own pace and that is ok. When you take things lightly, like criticisms, snide comments, impoliteness, ignorance,avoidance, or any other unpleasantness, we are growing. Don’t give too much of our energy to the people/ situations that do not deserve it.
“A problem well stated is a problem half solved.”
--John Dewey
The time spent on panicking about a problem should be used to understand the problem. To think and rethink about it, until you are able to define the problem satisfactorily by yourself. And then to understand, What was the cause of the problem? How did it occur?
There's no use talking about the problem unless you talk about the solution.
-- Betty Williams
We need to brainstorm on the solution, and find the best possible solution to our problem. If we are stuck somewhere, always feel free to ask for help. People always hesitate to ask for help but that is just pure ignorance. Nobody is going to see you as small if you ask for help. Your wisdom space will only expand if you are ready to just ASK.
"All life is problem solving." – Karl Popper
Throughout our life, we will be hit with various problems and roadblocks, so once you find some solutions to your problems and choose the best among them, you need to evaluate them based on their merits and demerits. you need to analyse the weightage of the decisions you take.
"There is no problem outside of you that is superior to the power within you." – Bob Proctor
Once you find a solution, the next step is how do you implement the solution? What are the necessary steps you have to take to achieve a positive result? How am I going to bounce back and retrace my steps if I fail with the choice I take?
Remember, we start small and everytime we take an initiative we are already growing. Confidence is gained by putting yourself out there in a challenging environment, in taking your own decisions and accepting failures and success with grace. Confidence is also polished when you are able to bounce back like a pair of expensive leather shoes.
