Reprogram your mind : Incident 2

One day I was having food with my collegues in office during our lunchbreak, we were engaged in light conversations when suddenly I felt like asking my collegue from another branch Kolkata, who was visiting our office for few months that the Kolkata branch members hated me or not, to which she went wide eyed and laughed , she said “Yes”. I asked a simple “Why?” With confusion and I couldnt contain my astonishment. She just said “ They consider you as a bad person, a witch, a witchy witch! “ And again, my heart sank a bit to the remark of “witchy witch “ and “bad person” but the question still lingered in my mind “Why?” , so I asker her again “But why?” , and responded saying more than a year back , one of their collegue in Kolkata received a bad feedback from someone , feedback system is annonymous, so they came to the colclusion that it was me. I was shocked, this baseless comments which they have made about me are all allegations?!!! And not true? And yet they used such strong words to describe me- strong negative words! But then another thought came to my mind, why should I be sad? Why should I feel down? Why should I even clarify, when they havent even directly asked me?! I have not done it, I wouldnt give anybody a bad remark, something that will pull others down. Because whenever I give a remark I consider myself in their position,I found it lame but it still affected me. But this was a lesson, wherever we go people will be judgemental and draw conclusions based on their thoughts, it need not have to be facts and if we feel bad for everything then we wont be a happy professional. So I decided, that its ok if people see me a certain way, we cannot provide justification to baseless allegations and we are not in school, we are working professionals. We can understand each others differences, or try to understand and go ahead keep busy with ourselves. Whatever people say about us, should not demotivate us or be a kill-joy, rather we should know its their narrowmindedness or even a simple misunderstanding, we can all try to give the least weightage to things that doesnt matter an ounce like this one!