IPV: Intimate Partner Violence
What is IPV? IPV stands for intimate partner violence. It is an abusive behavior within an intimate relationship which can be physical, verbal, emotional,sexual abuse or economic or a combination of these. It causes physical or mental or emotional harm to the one who in the relationship. Intimate Partner violence mainly occurs between the two people in an intimate relationship basically but it can also include immediate, very close family members like children also. If a married person then wife or husband can be the prey to this violence and if not married then girl friend or parents or someone as close as that so they can dominate in any way without fear.
Victims can be male or female, which means that both men and women can be either abusers or victims of domestic violence.Men have the tendency to continue long term violence comparatively than women. But we cannot exclude the fact that women also can have certain psychological disorders which can lead them to become long term abusers. There are different forms to IPV which can range from verbal abuse to sexual violence to emotional as well as controlling nature. We have seen certain husbands or wives with this kind controlling nature or verbal abuse or physical violence. Sometimes women are left with scars and marks due to these kinds of physical violence. It is an unbearable one to many women even though they silently face it some of them face it daily and some feel enough is enough and leave. Studies claim that women who suffer such kind of abuses or violence from their partners suffer depression, anxiety and phobias than normal women. The abusers triggering factors can be one among or a combination of these including the excessive usage or rather addiction of alcohol and drugs, abuses which they have faced in their childhood, low self esteem etc.
The two major problems I am discussing here are based on personal experiences, the first thing is the partners condition and the next one is impact on children(in a family). From a personal experience I can say that the children who suffer this or have suffered this would perform poor in school, their level of depression and anxiety and stress will be much much more higher than the tensions of a normal child who lives in a non abusive family.The child will definitely be more scared, helpless and prone to phobias which can affect their future in a very bad shape. I have known a family who have been very close to me, the mother and kids in the family have been victims of physical and verbal abuse and the father of the children or the woman’s husband fail to recognize what he is doing to them. They have been going through constant abuse where the women always gets beaten up and verbally abused by her drunk husband and the children would watch the dad beat up their mother in fear. Sometimes the children would hide themselves inside the cupboards, under the bed or inside the bathrooms fearing that they would also have the fate of their mother.Can you imagine the mental state of those kids who see and face it everyday. Those kids fear darkness, they fear their drunken father. The hopes the mornings bring to them gets washed off by the darkness the night brings to them. The woman in the family have been physically abused almost everyday which includes beating, kicking , hitting her head to the wall and tearing her dress off. Especially it is more in countries who doesn’t have strong rules to stop this violent act. If there were strong rules these people would have not hurt others daily. They enjoy the pain in their victims eyes. Dominating is the one thing that will make them extremely superior to the others. I once saw when I was in my mom’s home, their neighbor an elderly women called police because her son in law was physically beating up as well as verbally abusing her daughter since a week continuously. Seeing the police and filing complaint created a fear in him and he stopped beating her then also he continued verbally abusing her. Even if you can’t change everything by implementing strong rules you can definitely control it.
IMPLEMENT STRONG RULES!
CONTROL IT!
BE HUMAN, ACT AGAINST IT!
